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Dating Tip of the Month
By Sharon Vickery ‘The Dating Coach’
Smile and then say something!
It’s amazing how much a smile can do. It allows the other person to know you like them and it makes anyone more approachable. For some it can feel a little uncomfortable at first but just start by smiling and saying good morning to anyone you meet and then see if it makes them smile too. Soon you’ll be seen as the ‘happy’ one at work and this will make you attractive to almost anyone!
Essential Dating Tips
1. Be Interested In Your Date and Ask Questions
Learning to listen and be interested in the other person is vital if you’re to have a connection. Unfortunately many of us get nervous on a first date or at a new event and start talking at 100mph about ourselves. This can have the effect of simply turning the other person off so the key is to relax and have a few key questions prepared . We all like to talk about ourselves so by expressing a genuine interest in who the other person is you’ll be sure to find out all about them and if their a good match for you.
Do however avoid the same old ‘What do you do for a living’ or the ‘How do you like to spend your spare time’ questions. Although it’s nice to find out, these sorts of questions, especially at dating events, can become monotonous and don’t really differentiate you from anyone else.
You may want to ask them ‘how their dream life would be if money or circumstances was no object’ or ‘if they could be any animal what would they choose and why?’ The key is to stand out from the crowd and engage the other person in something a little unusual and inspiring for them to answer. You want them to remember you over anyone else after all!
2. Be Confident
Both men and women find confidence VERY attractive in a partner. It can however feel challenging for the best of us so my tip is to take time out to get clear on the qualities you’ll be bringing into a new relationship. Very often we get focussed on what we want out of a partner so I want you to switch the tables and ask yourself what will this new person in your life love about being around you? What have past partners said is a great quality of yours? Be sure to write them down and then look at them each day to remind yourself how special you are.
3. Know Where You’re Making Critical Dating Mistakes
In nearly every area of our lives if we want to learn how to do something better we find someone to teach us. Whether that’s at work, a hobby or new interest, we seek out someone with the extra knowledge we need who can show us how to improve.
For some reason however we are reluctant to do this when it comes to our love lives and we wonder why we stay single, keep attracting the wrong people and having the same results.
Our love lives are our one TRUE source of happiness so I request that you make this a new priority in your life. Commit to finding out more about the opposite sex and where you may have been making the same critical dating mistakes over and over. Commit to making this the year you find and keep a great partner and have the happy, loving relationship you’ve always wanted.
Online Dating Tips
At Xfactordates.com we’re proud to have on board, Sharon Vickery, one of the UK’s top Online Dating Coach’s and Rob Hargreaves.
Sharon and Rob run unique dating workshops that are focussed on understanding the opposite sex both during the online dating process and helping you find your ideal partner as easily and painlessly as possible!
Is online dating safe?
If you use your common sense online dating is no more or less safe than meeting someone in a bar or through any other kind of dating. In fact, if you email and make telephone contact before you meet in a public place it can be one of the safest ways to meet a partner. Remember, many of our members have also attended our events and so it’s likely you’ll have something in common from the start.
Should I put up a photo?
YES! Members with photos are 15-20 times more likely to get attention than those who don’t. However, it’s vital that you have the RIGHT photo if you’re looking to attract the right partner so here are our 3 Essential Photo Do’s & Don’ts:
Do:
• Include a great casual clear head shot which has been taken within the last 6 months
• Smile in all your photo’s
• Put at least 3 recent (taken within the last 6-12 months) photo’s online that show you in different situations and always include one full body shot
Don’t:
• Wear sunglasses, hats or appear too far away in the main photo. You want a photo that shows you at your best.
• Post pictures of you at parties with girls or guys all around
• Include your entire photo album together with your pet cat or dog unless you appear in most of the shots too
Please note: Photos will not appear on the site until they are approved by our Customer Care team.
What should I write in my profile?:
Have you ever wondered why your profile isn’t attracting the right attention from the men or women you want to hear from? It could be that it contains some red flags that whilst invisible to you, could be causing the opposite sex to pass you by.
Here are a few key profile tips:
• Make your profile fun to read. We all love humour and if you can make someone smile you’ll have them itching to contact you.
• Be positive throughout. Your profile is not a place to describe anything negative about you or your past and always leave out any comments about your ex.
• Write your profile as if you are ‘talking’ to your ideal partner in a bar. When you read it out loud does it sound like you?
• Don’t list out adjectives. Adjectives don’t describe how you are unique so aim to show someone who you are by giving real life examples. Use hobbies or activities to capture someone’s attention but remember, if a phrase could be true of almost anyone, leave it out!
• Keep it between 400-600 characters. We know women can go overboard with their profiles and men can just write one or two lines so give enough information to be inspiring but not so much that they want to hit delete.
Email Do’s & Don’ts
Take time to write your emails and you’ll massively increase your chances of a response.
Read these tips before you write your next email:
DO keep it short and simple. One or 2 paragraphs will make the best first impression.
DO mention something from their profile. Mention something that caught your eye and was unique about them. It show’s that you read their profile and have a real interest in who they are as a person.
Do write as if you are talking to them. Just keep it light and fun and write as if you are talking with them in the room.
Do give the other person something to write back to. It can be hard to find something to hook on to in a short email so end by asking the other person a question or giving them something they can easily respond to.
Don’t make a comment about how they look. If you’re writing to them it’s obvious you find them attractive so leave out the ‘nice smile’, ‘you’re so attractive’ or ‘good looking’ comments as these can be a real turn off for many.
Don’t give out your personal information too early. Have patience when dating online. Yes, you won’t know if you’re a match until you meet but allow a few emails to pass between you until you give out your phone number..and guys, do ask the woman if it would be OK to call her before you give her your number as she’ll be far more likely to feel comfortable offering it this way.
Don’t cut and paste! You may feel that online dating is a numbers game but it’s not so don’t be tempted to cut and paste a generic email out to lots of people in the ‘hope’ that someone will write back. Your job is to find someone you’re interested in and then inspire that person to be interested in you.
Don’t make any sexual references. Remember: This is your first email and you want to give the right impression so leave all sexual innuendos out.
Online Dating Workshops
We hope these tips help but if writing a great online profile seems like a daunting task or you’d like to understand how the opposite sex thinks during the online process then we’ve got some great news for you!
We’ve created a fun and interactive workshop where you’ll hear from men and women about their experiences of dating online and you’ll leave knowing exactly:
• What to write in your profile to attract the right partner to you.
• Why your profile isn’t attracting the right attention from the men or women you want to hear from?
• What red flags are in your profile that could be causing the opposite sex to pass you by.
• What the opposite sex think when they read most online profiles and how to have someone itching to contact you.
We’ll look at profiles and emails so you can learn from real life examples of what to do and what not to do.
• What photo’s you must include for the best chances of success.
Secrets of Attraction & Dating Workshops
Rob and Sharon host other dating workshops for men and women together where you’ll get their expert advice, have fun and meet lots of new like minded people.
Single women will leave knowing exactly:
• What you’re doing wrong with men
• What men really want in a woman for a long term relationship
• Where to find the ‘good men’ who are ready for a serious relationship
Single men will leave knowing exactly
• How to be the type of man that naturally attracts the right women?
• Know what type of woman you really want and which women to stay away from?
• What women really find attractive in a man?
• How to retain your freedom when you attract a great woman?
• 3 Words that attract and empower any woman?
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